This article is about your spouse. Specifically, how understanding their habits will help you thwart mistakes in your affair strategy.
Before we begin, we need to tell you something: YOU CANNOT SUDDENLY CHANGE YOUR HABITS WHEN STARTING AN AFFAIR. While you may think you do, you can’t. Changing your habits is the RISKIEST thing you can do.
Habit changes are by far the clearest sign of something having changed in your life. If you’ve been with your spouse for more than a few years, your spouse will understand your general habits very well. People are good at identifying patterns.
We start with understanding your spouse, and what they do as part of their daily household ‘chores and responsibilities’.
If your spouse cleans the car every weekend, you need to make sure you check the car after every ‘playdate’.
If your spouse is he one that balances the checkbook, or reviews the credit card statements, you need to make sure your date transactions don’t appear on it.
If your spouse spends a lot of time on the computer, you need to hide your computer history.
Similarly, you need to make sure that your own habits don’t drastically change. This means that you need to have a solid alibi – each time; every time.
If you’ve never worked late, and you start pulling double-shifts all the time, it’s suspicious.
In general, avoid any alibis that can be verified by your spouse. ‘Working late’ will only serve you well if your wife can’t verify if you’re at work late. Similarly with the ‘I was out with friends’ excuse. If your spouse knows your friends, one will eventually slip-up and let the cat out of the bag. This effect is compounded if your friends don’t know you’re having an affair – they have no reason to lie for you, and therefore they won’t.
If you are going to change your habits because of your affair, you need to make sure it’s done progressively. For example, start by ‘working late’ once a week, steadily for a few weeks. Then, increase the frequency. Ideally, you’d have a few ‘hobbies’ that you practice on the side, which would give you all the excuses you need.
The ideal situation is to hire someone to ‘manage’ your alibis. We generally recommend the Alibi Network. They have a proven track record, and their pricing is affordable. They offer everything from fake receipts to fake travel itineraries. All you need to do is remember the right thing.
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