First meeting with people can be awkward. I want you to repeat after me: The Olive Garden is NOT the right place for a first encounter. We can’t beat charm and charisma or humor into you, but you can avoid the Olive Garden.
When proposing a venue for the first date, make sure it’s not at a restaurant. Also make sure it’s not in the suburbs. People shy away from dinner, because it’s a multi-hour commitment. If you happen not to like who they’re with, you’re stuck for countless boring hours. Your best bet is to meet your prospect at a casual place where you can talk and where the time commitment is low for both of you. NOT A PLACE YOU TAKE YOUR SPOUSE TO. NEVER EVER EVER.
We take our dates to a lounge, and we ALWAYS set up the time for the date between 8:00 PM and 10:00 PM. We do this because at that time, the lounge is fairly empty, the music isn’t too loud and the couches are comfortable. This gives you a good level of privacy, you can use your best weapon on your prospect (your sly words) and you can get them to relax on a comfy couch instead of a stiff chair. Also, make sure that the place has food to nibble on, in case you get hungry.
Don’t get drunk unless your prospect leads the way lead the way. Don’t offer any hard liquor unless explicitly asked for it or it’s ‘on the house’. Do ask if they want a little something to eat in case your prospect is hungry.
You need to have INTERESTING CONVERSATION MATERIAL to talk to your prospect about. Light & funny stories work well. Avoid the boring stuff such as work or ‘what’s your major’ unless your prospect asks first. Even then, transition out of work talk into discussing life and how fun and awesome it is. positive energy makes all the difference here. And we can’t stress this enough: MAKE THEM LAUGH, MAKE THEM LAUGH AND MAKE THEM LAUGH.
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I want you to repeat after me: The Olive Garden is NOT the right place for a first encounter. We can’t beat charm and charisma into you, but you can avoid the Olive Garden.
When proposing a venue for the first date, make sure it’s not at a restaurant. Also make sure it’s not in the suburbs. Women will tend to shy away from dinner, because it’s a multi-hour long commitment. If thy happen not to like who they’re with, they are stuck there for countless boring hours. Your best bet is to meet her at a casual place where you can talk and where the time commitment is low for both of you.
We take our women to a lounge, and we ALWAYS set up the time for the date between 7:00 PM and 8:00 PM. We do this because at that time, the lounge is fairly empty, the music isn’t too loud and the couches are comfortable. This gives you a good level of privacy, you can use your best weapon on her (your sly words) and you can get her to relax on a comfy couch instead of a stiff chair. Also, make sure that the place has food to nibble on, in case she’s hungry.
One trick we repeatedly used was to show up at the lounge ½ an hour early, and talk to the waitress. Give her 40$ in-hand and tell her at about ½ an hour into the date, she should come to both of you with a fruity-tasting girly-shot and say this specifically: “This one’s on the house, Mr. XYZ”.
Don’t get drunk unless she leads the way. Don’t offer her any hard liquor unless she asks for it or it’s ‘on the house’. Do ask her if she wants a little something to eat in case she’s hungry. Do ask how her day went and what was good / bad about it.
Again, you’ll need about 2 to 3 more face-to-face hours to go the full Monty with her. So you need to have INTERESTING CONVERSATION MATERIAL to talk to her about. Light & funny stories work well. Avoid the boring stuff such as work or her major unless she asks first. Even then, transition out of work talk into discussing life. And we can’t stress this enough: MAKE HER LAUGH, MAKE HER LAUGH AND MAKE HER LAUGH.
